“So the topic is gay marriage. Who do we ask? Straight people. The topic is trans* rights. Who do we ask? Cisgendered people. The topic is racism. Who do we ask? White people. The topic is poverty. Who do we ask? Rich people. The topic is abortion. Who do we ask? People who will never need an abortion. There’s something wrong with all of this.”
Anti-queer activists in NJ are bragging about their ability to mobilize their base to flip polls that show support for marriage equality.
Show them that we’re just as motivated!
Below quote from an email by the New Jersey Family Policy Council:
The press is still polling! In response to our alerts, you all have helped to turn polls on the subject of same-sex “marriage” from for to against. At the Star-Ledger, marriage supporters flipped an online poll from 52% in favor of same-sex “marriage” to 60% against. At NJ 101.5—which has been hearteningly pro-marriage in its coverage of this legislation—marriage supporters turned the poll from a near tie to stand 71.6% in favor of marriage as one man and one woman. Now the Asbury Park Press is hosting yet another poll, this time giving respondents a chance to pick a reason for their answer. Opponents of marriage currently dominate that poll at 53% compared to our 30%. Vote for marriage now!
Same-sex marriage advocates are not winning yet.
Tumblr, I think you know what to do with this poll.
You claim to be “changing the beauty standards one sequin at a time!” however I find this claim to be completely false and in fact I really think you conform to many standards of beauty accepted by society.
To start off with, you are a 5”4 white female with long naturally blonde, dyed pink hair. Your measurements are 34-24-30 and your face is conventionally pretty. Now there’s nothing wrong with that, but you do your makeup, your hair, and dress in clothes essentially predetermined to the “alt girl” convention of beauty. And just because it isn’t the “tan skin, blue eyes, blond hair, big boobs” convention of beauty, doesn’t mean you aren’t conforming to something most of society has deemed acceptable and attractive.
Also, I understand you have a clothing line. So I checked it out. Not only is it aesthetically underwhelming but after looking through the entire site and all of your look books I found that every single model (with the exception of one girl who looked to be of Asian descent) you’ve used to model your clothing is white, size 0-6, with long hair, and a classically pretty face. In addition they were all made up to accentuate their looks.
So Audrey, you can keep doing whatever you want to do. It’s not my personal taste but I don’t really care. However, until you start using models of different sizes and races and looks, making them up, or stop conforming to a predetermined and socially accepted as attractive look and style yourself, I cannot see how you can claim that you are changing absolutely any beauty standards.
I know that going to the psych ward or any of the various outpatient programs I know of won't help but I feel like I need something more than what I'm getting right now
I don’t know. I wish I could go back to rehab, but I know that even if I did there would be different staff and different people and it wouldn’t be the same, safe place I went when I was 17. I’m hoping that all of this is just PMS (I just started the designated period time on my birth control, ya know, the last four pills of the month without any hormones that are a different color than the rest) and not something longer lasting. I just really wish this wasn’t such a regular thing that I go through or that there was some kind of solution or answer.
I'm thinking of making a "shit people who are actually socially awkward say" video consisting of conversation-killing things I've actually said.
Including gems such as:
"Yeah, I quoted Morrissey in my suicide note when I was 17 and tried to kill myself. It’s kinda funny, actually. I just kinda disappeared from school and nobody tried to contact me through myspace or anything. I didn’t find out that anyone even noticed until years later when I ran into someone and they asked what happened."
"What? I’m just treating you the same way you treat me when you’re not interested in what I’m talking about."
"I don’t really have friends because people tend to talk about their interpersonal relationships with one another and I have no way of relating to any of it, so it’s kind of an endless loop."
"Is what you’re saying actually going to get to some sort of point eventually or are you just gonna keep talking in circles? Because I really can’t stand that and you’re already getting on my nerves. It’s like a fucking Steve Winwood song."
"Yeah, okay, except that’s not ironic. I’m not even amusing or coincidental. You just don’t understand what words mean."